All Praise is due to Allah, The Most Beneficiant The Most Merciful, may the Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon Al'Sayyidi Muhammad Mustafaa Sal'Allahualayhiwasalam, his family, and companions.

"And the believers, men and women, are protecting friends one of another; they enjoin the right and forbid the wrong, and they establish worship and they pay the poor-due, and they obey Allah and His messenger. As for these, Allah will have mercy on them. Lo! Allah is Mighty, Wise."
~Surah Tawbah, Ayah Seventy-Two


"Meet people in such a manner that if you die they weep over you and if you are alive they yearn for your company."
~Ali ibn Abi Talib RadhiAllahuanhu

Duaas are always requested...

Tuesday, March 13, 2007

Islam and the concept of Friendship

Bismillahir'rahman'nir-rahim.

Allahumma sali'ala sayyiddina Muhammadin wa 'ala alay sayyiddina Muhammadin wa barik wa salim.

"The example of a good companion and a bad companion is like that of the seller of musk, and the one who blows the blacksmith’s bellows. So as for the seller of musk then either he will grant you some, or you buy some from him, or at least you enjoy a pleasant smell from him. As for the one who blows the blacksmith’s bellows then either he will burn your clothes or you will get an offensive smell from him."
~~~~~~~~~~~


Islam and the concept of Friendship
(from here)

Humans are social creatures by nature; they're always in need of friends and companions. Most of our lives depend on interaction with others. Strong individuals are the core of a strong community, something that Muslims should always strive for.

We all know that Allah the Most High has brought us to life in order to test us. Thus we are here for a relatively short period of time and that we shall meet Allah one Day, so we need to use our present life for what is best for us in the hereafter. Once we know our purpose and our goal in life, we should seek ways to achieve them so as to benefit our own selves.

In an authentic Hadith, Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) said:

"A person is likely to follow the faith of his friend, so look whom you befriend."

Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) who has the most noble character and dealings with fellow humans gave us a very clear and simple message and advice in regard to friendship.

How should we choose our friends?

We should choose the friend that believes and abide by our religion (Islam) and gives great respect to what Allah and Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) has ordered us. And we should stay away from that who is not well mannered and gives no attention to what Islam is about or what pleases or displeases Allah, for he'll surely affect us negatively. There is no good in the companion drowns us in sins and displeasing Allah.

The bases for the actions of those who follow the evil ways are corrupt; their actions are built upon misguidance and deviation. Their deeds are worthless to them as Allah said:

"And We will proceed to what they have done of deeds, so We shall render them to scattered floating dust." Qur’an (25:23)

Their actions, even if we see them as righteous and noble are of no value to them, so how can they be useful to us?

Good friends are those who share their companions both happiness and sadness. If we share our feelings with the wrong-doers whose actions are worthless and based on corruption, then we are following the same ways and standards as they are, and we'll end up being as corrupted as they are, and then we're in a big trouble, how can we face Allah's dissatisfaction and displeasure?!

Instead of making friends with the misguided ones we should befriend the righteous, yet treat the rest in a gracious and just manner. Staying at sufficient distance is necessary; yet treating everybody in a noble and kind manner is required.

In another Hadith, Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) said:

"The example of a good companion and a bad companion is like that of the seller of musk, and the one who blows the blacksmith’s bellows. So as for the seller of musk then either he will grant you some, or you buy some from him, or at least you enjoy a pleasant smell from him. As for the one who blows the blacksmith’s bellows then either he will burn your clothes or you will get an offensive smell from him."

When choosing our friends we should ask ourselves first: Are they going to help us achieve the purpose for which we were brought to life? or will they take us away from it? Will they desire for us Allah's pleasure or is that completely irrelevant to them and not their concern at all? Are they leading us to Paradise or to the Hell?

Allah says in the Qur'an:

"O you who believe! Take care of your own selves. If you follow the right guidance and enjoin what is right and forbid what is wrong no hurt can come to you from those who are in error. The return of you all is to Allah, then He will inform you about (all) that which you used to do." Qur'an (5:105)

Allahumma sali'ala sayyiddina Muhammadin wa 'ala alay sayyiddina Muhammadin wa barik wa salim. Rawdhina billahi Rabba wa bil'islaami deena wa bi'Muhammadin nabiyaa, wa akhirud'duana anil'hamdulillahi rabbil'alameen. Walaykumasalam wa rahmatullah

Saturday, September 02, 2006

Islamic Brotherhood

Bismillahir'rahman'nir-rahim.

Allahumma sali'ala sayyiddina Muhammadin wa 'ala alay sayyiddina Muhammadin wa barik wa salim.

It is related byabu Musa Ash'ari (radiAllahu anhu) that The Messengerof Allah said "The connection between Muslims is like that of a strong building - one part strengthens another." The Prophet then showed this by interlocking the fingers of one hand with those of the other (that muslims should remain united and combined - thereby streghthening one another).
In the above hadith, by enlikening Muslim unity to a strong building, the Holy Prophet has in effect urged the Ummah to form a fortress by uniting where each Muslim will be a "brick" and the closeness and coherence amongst Muslims should be like that of bricks in a building. He then demonstrated, interlocking the fingers of both hands that the Muslims should remain together and blend into a single body.
In a hadith, narrated by Nu'man ibn Bashir (radiALlahu anhu) the Prophet is reported to have said that"The Muslims (the Ummah) are like the limbs of a man, where if the eye hurts the whole body feels pain and if the head hurts, the whole body feels pain and suffering."
This hadith, also seeks to emphasize the desired unity of the Ummah. "All for one and one for all" should be the Muslims' motto. They should be prepared to assist one another and even share the sorrows and problems of each other. In fact, in yet another hadith mention is made of the fact thatjust as it is necessary for a believer (muslim) to be loyal and devoted to Allah, the Holy Prophet ,the Holy Qur'an and the Islamic government; it is an essential condition, for being a faithful Believer, not to remain indifferent to the difficulties and problems of the Muslims but to take a genuine interest in them.
As related by Huzaifah (radiAllahu anhu) the Prophet said "Whoever does not take an interest in the affairs and problems of the Muslims, he is not of them. And whoever's state is such that, each morning and evening, he is not loyal and earnest to Allah, his Apostle, His Book, the Islamic ruler and towards the Muslims, as a whole, he is not of them."
The Holy Prophet was so stem with regards to the mutual relat ion ship of Muslims, that he even took pledges for brotherly feeling and sincerity towards all muslims.
It is related by Jabir ibn Abdullah (radiAllahu anhu) that he said "I had taken a pledge at the hand of Rasuluilah to observe Swallah (prayers), to pay Zakah (charity due) and to be a sincere well-wisher of every Muslim." The Fact that the Prophet took the pledge or promise from the companions, for being a sincere well - wisher of the Muslims together with that of observing Swalaah and Zakah which are important pillars of Islam - shows the importance attached by him to the matter.
Besides the general kind treatment, brotherly love etc. to be extended to fellow Muslims, there are certain specific rights and claims to be fulfilled. It is related by Abu Hurairah (radiAllahu anhu) that the Prophet said, "There are five claims of a Muslim upon a Muslim: to return his greetings when he greets; to visit him when he falls ill; to attend his funeral; to accept his invitation to a meal and to pray for him, when he sneezes, by saying'yarhamukallah'(May the mercy of Allah be on you)."[Note that another hadith mentions six claims of one Muslim upon another]
The five things mentioned in the hadith a reacts which not only give expression to, but also promote brotherly feelings between Muslims and therefore special attention should be paid to them. In another report, some other acts are specified too-which shows that the claims described here are by way of example only and not conclusive.
Anas (radiAllahu anhu) reports that Rasulullah once said "I swear by the Holy Being in whose power my life is, any one of you cannot be a true believer unless he desires for his fellow-brother what he desires for himself.
"To feel earnestly for a Muslim brother, to the extent of preferring for him what one prefersforoneself has been classed asa prerequisite forcomplete faith. So, anyone who claims to be a Muslim, but is lacking in this aspect, he in fact does not possess the reality of Faith (iman).
A principal feature of the Holy Prophet 's teachings is the emphasis upon every class, group or individual to fulfil the rights of others, with a full sense of responsiblity, and consider it a source of good fortune in both worlds.
May Allah the Almighty grant us all, the understanding and the guidance to fulfil our rights and duties to one anottyer, in the mannerthat has been explained to us by the Holy Prophet and may He create the bond of true and Sincere Unity betiween us all. Ameen.

Taken from Mutmainaa


Allahumma sali'ala sayyiddina Muhammadin wa 'ala alay sayyiddina Muhammadin wa barik wa salim. Rawdhina billahi Rabba wa bil'islaami deena wa bi'Muhammadin nabiyaa, wa akhirud'duana anil'hamdulillahi rabbil'alameen. Walaykumasalam wa rahmatullah

Saturday, July 22, 2006

It seemed impossible...

Bismillahir'rahman'nir-rahim.

Allahumma sali'ala sayyiddina Muhammadin wa 'ala alay sayyiddina Muhammadin wa barik wa salim.

"Stay together, friends
Don't scatter and sleep.
Our friendship is made
of being awake."
~Rumi rahmatullahi'alay

Asalamualaykum wa rahmatullah,

Forgive us for the lack of updates, and sorry for the wait.

So whats with the Poetry from Rumi [Rahmatullahi'alay] up top? Nothing but a reminder, perhaps it will come into play later. Now on with the post insha'Allah...This is a post Sister Mujahidah and I were planning to post together, but due to certain time restraints I am posting-but it is both our ideas put together insha'Allah.

Some of you may know, and many of you probably do not know but some time in the recent past Sister Mujahidah an Nafs and myself were given the opportunity to meet and spend a few days together. Alhamdulillah. We won't bore you with the details, but in general: Sister Mujahidah an Nafs and I met via "Blogistan" and eventually we became good friends, Alhamdulillah.

Modern day technology allowed us to stay in touch through various mediums, but meeting in person seemed pretty unlikely. Why? Well it's simple: We're quite far from one another, so meeting looked impossible, unless one of us was going to travel the distance, use the time, spend the money..not to mention get the blessing of our parents to actually go this far without any "real" reason... It all seemed impossible, something that would have to be put on the backburner till the opportunity presented itself.

Little did we know the opportunity was going to present itself less than a year after we became friends. Sister Mujahidah was given the opportunity of coming "pretty close" to where I am... pretty close compared to the distance now. So of course we seized the opportunity...well, we tried at leat.... She reached her destination fine Alhamdulillah and was there for a while, finally we started looking around for tickets... Lo and behold: Just when we needed them their prices were sky-rocketing. Subhan'Allah.. seemed so close..but at the same time we both felt it would be impossible. Oh of course the travel was covered, the time allotted was already being spent, the valid reason was there, the "go ahead" from the families even...The only thing that was stopping us was a direct flight which seemed quite costly, so costly that both of us agreed it would be too much to bother with, and the indirect flights were a serious hassle..making the journey 3x its length. So of course we were upset, so close yet so impossible..and indeed it seemed like a once in a lifetime opportunity.

So what happened? Well at one point we seemed ready to give up and figured "Khayr Allah didn't want it, or it wasn't meant to be, why have it any other way? There's Hikmah in it." In the end we figured Alhamdulillah 'ala kulli haal. So the idea of us meeting up was abolished for a short period of time. But when you have your heart set on something for so long, and are planning for almost two months...only to find out that nothing was going through... there was bound to be persistence. So we persisted in our search for tickets, and finally sister Mujahidah found one...of the same value as the others we had checked out previously.

So someone (who I will be forever indebted to-for brining together two friends, may Allah give her more happiness than she can imagine in this life and the next insha'Allah, and may her spouse and children be the coolness of her eyes insha'Allah. [say ameen please]) So someone talked to Sister Mujahidah and (although I'm sure Mujahidah didn't need any talking to) this sister still made her see how this really is a once in a life-time chance because the chance of 1)VeiledKnight going to see Mujahidah were quite slim unless for special reason or it was on the way to elsewhere. 2)Sister Mujahidah [as it looked] would have been booked for the next year or so with her Pre-Reg, and the holidays were already booked for other occasions. Alhamdulillah this gave her that little push she needed and she booked the ticket and within a few days we met, spent time together, and Alhamdulillah all I can say is that to my Sisters if you don't know Mujahidah-well get to know her. Masha'Allah.

So what was the lesson to be learned? We both thought about this, and we came up with a few lessons, undoubtedly we probably missed a few lessons but at the same time here is one key lesson we picked up on:

If it's meant to be, it'll happen. Now this goes for all cases, but let's talk about Friends. Many a time we meet people online via Islamic projects, blogs, etc. Some we take as close friends knowing we may never meet in this life, and others we simply know as acquaintances. But MOST of the time our friends are people we know from around our area, people we went to school with, people we know from the masjid, basically meaning people we have actually met and interacted with in person.

Subhan'Allah it's so interesting how people meet and how they become friends, sometimes it makes you wonder "what triggered this friendship to work so well, and this one doesn't work at all?" Thinking of this reminds me of a saying; unfotunately i have not the slightest idea where this is anymore, but if anyone does have it please e-mail journeyends@hotmail.com immediately with the text. JazakAllahukhayr. Anyway- so I believe(tentative) it was Ali radhi'Allahu'anhu who said that Those people who become friends in this life are friends because they recognized eachother from that one time when all our souls were toghether-when we said to Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala that He was Our Lord, and we would worship none but Him. This is why we almost "instantaneously click."

Now does that go for "internet friends?"(btw try not to have exceedingly many.. just a tip) maybe it doesn't BUT Allahu'Alim..the point is: Sister Mujahidah and I ended up meeting because there was a reason behind it, Allah allowed it for a reason, and Alhamdulillah i can say nothign but good came from that few days we spent together. Had there been evil to be derived from it, surely Allah Azz'wa Jal would not have allowed it to happen. Even after we gave up trying, still in the end things worked out. Sometimes things are just meant to be? Perhpas also because our friendship is purely Fi'Sabilillah. Alhamdulillah, Allah has enabled us to have developed a friendship in which when we talk we mention Din, when we met we spoke of Din, anytime we interact theres some concept of Din tied to it. Only by the Will of Allah, Alhamdulillah.

We started this friendship Fi'Sabilillah and insha'Allah it will continue as so. As someone I know once said "The friendships made on His Path, indeed are unique." We have become friends on this long journey to Allah, and may the end of This Path be with Him, and His Habib Sal'Allahu'alayhiwasalam at "Al'Kawthar, The Fount of Abundance."(Talib al Habib)

So whats the point? Should we all go and meet friends that we have all over the world? Well thats not practical..is it? But the idea is...even if you meet, or don't meet... Keep those ties, not becuase one day you will meet but becuase it is the Order of Allah and His Messenger Sal'Allahualayhiwasalam. Till the last moment there was no guarantee Sister Mujahidah and I were going to meet, but we did, becuase Allah Allowed it. So what good happened by us meeting, how did this help the ummah? Not only did Sister Mujahidah meet me, she also was given teh chance to meet a
very dear friend of mine. One more tie Fi'Sabilillah, Alhamdulillah. Secondly, our families now know one another... two seperate Muslim families, miles apart, who would have probably never met otherwise, probably never gotten that chance to extend a hand Fi'Sabilillah, these two families now know one another, respect one another, have at least some sort of care and concern for one another, and insha'Allah are in one another's duaas...

Indeed we are One Ummah, it doesn't matter if we are near or far, it's about securing the Ties of our Ummah. If we know one another from the internet or if we know one another from the Masjid: Never forget- Our rope is one-. Indeed Maulana Rumi is right; "Stay together friends, do not scatter and sleep, our friendship is made of being awake."If we aren't awake, if we don't take the initiative to keep ties or to reach out to our fellow Brothers or Sisters..how can we even think to Unite?

We thank Allah Subhananhu wa ta'ala for giving us the chance to meet and we pray He gives us more, if not in this life then insha'Allah in The Best of Places.

May Allah enable us to make all our ties Fi'Sabilillah so that we may as the hadith says "keep our matter alive." Insha'Allah.

~Mujahidah an Nafs & Veiled Knight

Allahumma sali'ala sayyiddina Muhammadin wa 'ala alay sayyiddina Muhammadin wa barik wa salim. Rawdhina billahi Rabba wa bil'islaami deena wa bi'Muhammadin nabiyaa, wa akhirud'duana anil'hamdulillahi rabbil'alameen. Walaykumasalam wa rahmatullah

Wednesday, June 21, 2006

The Best of Neighbours...

Bismillahir'rahman'nir-rahim.

Allahumma sali'ala sayyiddina Muhammadin wa 'ala alay sayyiddina Muhammadin wa barik wa salim.

Asalamualaykum wa Rahmatullah,

Insha'Allah all is well.

As mentioned in a previous post-there would be a 'part 2' in regards to the following Hadith:

It is reported by Bukhari and Muslim [rahima'ullah ta'ala] that Rasulullah Sal'Allahu'alayhiwasalam said:

"The best of companions in Allah's view is the best among them to his companion, and the best of neighbours in Allah's view is the best among them towards his neighbour."

The earlier post dealt with the first part of the hadith "The best of companions in Allah's view is the best among them to his companion." Insha'Allah, today's post is in regards to the later part: "and the best of neighbours in Allah’s view is the best among them towards his neighbour." Alhamdulillah.

Interestingly enough, many of us extend the hand of friendship to our fellow Muslim, whether they be two doors down from us or an ocean apart, simply because they are a Muslim. It's from the Beautiful Sunnah of our Nabi Sal'Allahu' alayhiwasalam to build strong bonds with our fellow brethren so that we may 'Keep our matter alive' [excerpt from hadith]. Many call this extending a hand Fi'Sabilillah. Masha'Allah that is all well and great, may Allah reward each of those individuals who strengthen the ties of this Ummah far and wide. But as we go about making friendships Fi'Sabilillah with Muslims here and there, do we often forget that we should make ties Fi'Sabilillah even with those who do not share the same faith as us?

"and the best of neighbours in Allah’s view is the best among them towards his neighbour."

If you live in the west, it is quite probable that your neighbors may be non-Muslims and/or of a different 'cultural background'(unless you live in Leicester,UK...then its a whole 'nother ballpark, a cricket one perhaps :D) Alhamdulillah for communities which have managed to build and strengthen ties purely based Fi'sabilillah, insha'Allah. Anyway the point is if you live in the western countries, it is likely that your neighbor will be a non-Muslim and/or have a different 'cultural background' which is more than fine Alhamdulillah.

I believe that this is where many of us fall short. There are two scenarios which are often seen, and a few more "sub scenarios" which go under them, yet as Muslims we do not fulfill our duty in these circumstances.

Scenario One:

A non-Muslim family/person is living next door to a Muslim family. Both families/neighbours have lived in the same place (in their respective houses) for well over a few weeks (months, years, decades, take your pick) yet the Muslim family has never really extended a hand of friendship to these neighbors simply b/c "they are kuffar and we don't need 'riff-raff' like that" or "they are different, we don't share the same views, they could corrupt our kids." Oh the list is endless, Subhan'Allah.

It feels like we are so caught up in making ties Fi'Sabilillah with those who are Muslim, whether they be abroad or across the street, but we are hesitant to extend a hand of friendship to our very own neighbors, knowing well that Rasulullah Sal'Allahu'alayhiwasalam constantly reminded us to be good with our brothers as well as to our neighbors.

"They are kuffar:" If my memory serves me right, a kaafir is one who is shown the religion of Islam, is shown The Truth in the correct manner, and then still denies it, then they are labeled 'kaafir' otherwise they are simply uninformed OR they really are [because they chose to be] blatantly iggnorant... So isn't it up to us to give dawah?

"They are different:" Yea and so what? Boggling really...I'm sure they find us different too, but do many of the non-Muslims actually 'show' it? Many are taken aback by beards, hijaabs, abayas, thobes, etc but at the same time many of tehm do not shun Muslims, the way we shun them...So someone gave you a dirty look because you're wearing hijaab or have a beard.. We should smile at them and make duaa for them insha'Allah, and if they ask questions, be nice! We should try to answer them, explain to them the Wisdom and Beauty behind these facets of Islam.

"They will corrupt our kids:" So let us give our kids the 'tarkeeb' to be strong enough to leave an impression on their children, opposed to the other way around.

"But we are good to them; we don't bother them or anything:" Alhamdulillah, that is being good to your neighbor in away, but at the same time, we live next door to someone for three years and still don't know their first name? I'm not asking or saying that we have to call our neighbors over for dinner (although feeding them Zabiha meat doesn’t sound like a bad idea) or that we have to go out with our neighbors, but it should be so that if our neighbors ever needed anything they could simply come over and ask for it, or if they needed some help with something they could come over and ask for it. It is one thing to be hospitable and kind and it is another to be quiet and rude.

Subhan'Allah the excuses seem endless, but do we realize the solutions are endless as well? Alhamdulillah.

It's no lie; living in the west can be cumbersome when it comes to society, but at the same time, Subhan'Allah we can look at it as a Test and a Mercy from Allah. Many of us have it SO much easier in the west opposed to many other places in the world, and Subhan'Allah, non-Muslim neighbors? What a great Dawah oppurtunity, Alhamdulillah.

True many of these people do not really care about religion, but some do... what if that small percentage of people who are looking for some Saqoon in their lives, what if from them one of those individuals happens to be our next door neighbor, and we did not present Islam to them the best way possible?

Many do not accept before their death, so will they be asked of it on That Day? Perhaps they will, Allah gave them a brain, He gave them intellect to go out and research, look up, find, and question...but Allah Knows Best. But will we be questioned? Yes. Allah will ask us 'Why did you not propagate My Deen? Why did you not extend your hand to these neighbors? Why didn't you show them the kindness Islam teaches us, perhaps through that they may have accepted Islam.' Perhaps those will not be the exact words, indeed Allah Knows Best.


Extending a hand Fi'Sabilillah doesn't always mean to secure ties within the Ummah, at times it also means making doorway for Dawah insha'Allah.

Scenario Two:

The neighbours are Muslim, but of a different "cultural background."

In Surah Al'Hujraat, Ayah thirteen it says:
"O mankind! We created you from a single (pair) of a male and a female, and made you into nations and tribes, that ye may know each other (not that ye may despise (each other). Verily the most honoured of you in the sight of Allah is (he who is) the most righteous of you. And Allah has full knowledge and is well acquainted (with all things)."

If Rasulullah Sal'Allahu'alayhiwasalam and the Sahabah Akram Radhi'Allahu'anhu wa anhuma could live with Christian monks, Jewish rabbis, heedless leaders, zionists, many of who were anti-Islam and would try to diminish Islam, then we can suck it up and live with our own Muslim Brethren, no matter what culture they be.

"I can't 'connect' with my neighbors because they are Pakistani/Arab/Indian/Afghani/Caucasian/Oriental/Latino/African/purple/green/orange

/red/teal/pink/etc... "

Is the stupidest and most un-excusable 'excuse' ever. Khallas.

"But they don’t understand!:" Understand what? Why you do one thing one way and they do the same thing another? So what? All our job is, is to be their neighbor. It's not hard, race shouldn’t be an issue. This is like saying "Oh I can't associate with you b/c your Maliki and I'm Shafii."

"They aren't practicing Muslims:" Yea..and? Insha'Allah maybe if our characters were so good, people would become practicing by our company...

"They don't like me/us:" So that doesn't mean we disassociate with our Muslim brother, does it? What did we do that they don’t like us? It's possible we could have done something which turned them away from us. Regardless, many from the own family of Rasulullah Sal'Allahu'alayhiwasalam didn't 'like' him, did he shun them? No. Alhamdulillah.

So what do we have to do?


We don't neccesarily have to throw dinner parties, get togethers, set up picnics, etc etc etc.* We simply make sure our neighbor knows wedo care for them. Take over food every now and then, share with them the rich culture of Islaam, and find opportune moments to give dawah to them. In their grief, comfort them with words from the Quran and Sunnah, in their happiness smile with them and wish them the best, in their anger, help them to be reasonable. Many say this leads to unnecessary talking, intermingling etc. No, there is no compromise in religion. Do not send your wife/daughter/sister with food over when you know the next door neighbor is a male, take it yourself. Do not send your husband/son/brother over with some food if your next door neighbor is a female. Do it yourself. If their kids need a ride and your headed out, maybe you can give them a lift? If your going out to the grocery store maybe your neighbor needs a few things? These are ' Al'maun- small kindnesses. Be a good neighbor, but also make the lines of Shari’ah very clear, insha'Allah soon enough [if they aren’t Muslim or practicing] they will come to respect and understand us but all we have to do is extend our hand Fi'Sabilillah.


*However if they are Muslim, we might want to spend time with them, maybe set up a halal dinner [separated etc]

Remember: "the best of neighbours in Allah's view is the best among them towards his neighbour."

No one is asking for an organ, being a good neighbor just means being kind, this too is a Friendship Fi'Sabilillah.

Allahumma sali'ala sayyiddina Muhammadin wa 'ala alay sayyiddina Muhammadin wa barik wa salim. Rawdhina billahi Rabba wa bil'islaami deena wa bi'Muhammadin nabiyaa, wa akhirud'duana anil'hamdulillahi rabbil'alameen. Walaykumasalam wa rahmatullah


Saturday, June 10, 2006

Advice on Friends

Bismillahir'rahman'nir-rahim.

Allahumma sali'ala sayyiddina Muhammadin wa 'ala alay sayyiddina Muhammadin wa barik wa salim.

A short poem by Imran Ibn Zarkhan Al Shafi on friendship Inshallah Ta'ala. (I promise to post something original on the topic of friendship soon VK :)


A real friend wishes his companions well,
He's not one who allows them to get close to hell,
Always be careful of the friends you Choose,So, in the end,
Jannah you will not lose,
If you find your companion is not stopping your wrong,
then, be weary, his friendship is not strong.
If you see the pattern made,that when you are under your friend's shade,
Your Imaan begins to fade,
Leave the worthless creation,make friends with Allah, Surely that is a high station!.
A dervish who had knowledge of our present situation,
Once told his students the following dictation,
"The meeting of people will never enrich you,
save with the gibberish of useless gossip.
So diminish your meeting with people,
except for knowledge or to improve your condition"


Allahumma sali'ala sayyiddina Muhammadin wa 'ala alay sayyiddina Muhammadin wa barik wa salim. Rawdhina billahi Rabba wa bil'islaami deena wa bi'Muhammadin nabiyaa, wa akhirud'duana anil'hamdulillahi rabbil'alameen. Walaykumasalam wa rahmatullah

Sunday, May 28, 2006

The Best of Companions...

Bismillahir'rahman'nir-rahim.

Allahumma sali'ala sayyiddina Muhammadin wa 'ala alay sayyiddina Muhammadin wa barik wa salim.

Asalamualaykum wa Rahmatullah,

Insha'Allah you are in the best of health and imaan.

It is reported by Bukhari and Muslim [rahima'ullah ta'ala] that Rasulullah Sal'Allahu'alayhiwasalam said:

"The best of companions in Allah’s view is the best among them to his companion, and the best of neighbours in Allah’s view is the best among them towards his neighbour."

So what do we understand from this hadith? Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala is pleased when we have good charachter with our friends and neighbors, and in general as you know- Allah is pleased with those who show good character to anyone. Alhamdulillah there are a few things we can take from this hadith but for now let's focus on one aspect, and the next will coem in a later post insha'Allah.

"The best of companions in Allah’s view is the best among them to his companion"

This is quite interesting becuase most likely when we first hear it we sort of shrug it off thinking "Yea I'm nice to my frineds, okay." we might not give this phrase the attention it needs.

More often than not when you befriend someone you're both kind to one another, care for one another and treat one another with respect. Alhamdulillah, indeed when the hadith states the above mentioned phrase it means all that; but when you contemplate about it, you think 'why would that me neccesary to say..isn't it obvious that your friends are people you are good to?" So perhaps the phrase has to mean more?

I'm no muhadith so I'm not trying to give tafsir of the hadith, rather just reminding myself and whoever Allah wills to read this; that being good to our companions/friends to their face is not enough. Your friendship and loyalty to that person doesn't end there.

Being "the best among them to your companion" entails alot..but it's no burden either, Alhamdulillah.

If our friend is sad we should try to make her/him smile and see the positive. If our friend is angry we should not let them become consumed in their fury, we should talk to them, reason with them, and try to help them. If our friend is happy then be happy for them, share their joy. If somethign good happens to our friend, be happy for them and make duaa Allah gives them more insha'Allah. If something bad happens to our friend feel sad for them, we should make duaa for them and not become joyful over their loss. When our friend is not around, praise him/her infront of others so that they may know of his/her piety and goodness. When our friend talks to us we should listen carefully and give them our attention. When your friend is with you make your friend feel as if they are most beloved to you. We should not act with your friend in such ways that they may start to harbor ill feelings towards us. We should try to be friends who bring out the best in others. We should ease the worries of our friends if we can, we should remind them of Allah and they should remind us of Allah, we should be friends for His Sake in this life so that we may strenghten this Ummah. This is a true friend....a true friend does all of the above and much more. Alhamdlillah.

It is narrated in the ahadith that when Rasulullah Sal'Allahualayhiwasalam sat with his companions, radhi'Allahuanhum wa anhuma, and he Sal'Allahualayhiwasalam spoke with them they would feel as if they were the favorite of Rasulullah Sa'Allahualayhiwasalam, this is how special we should treat our companions, insha'Allah.

Indeed everyone slips but what do we do then? We seek refuge in Allah Most High and we ask our friend(s) to forgive us insha'Allah. But let's not make it a habit to be having to seek forgiveness from our friends because we upset them.

Another thing: Thank Allah Az wa Jal, verily without Him these people wouldn't be in our lives.

Alhamdulillahi'Rabbil alamin I have been blessed with a few friends who I can honestly say are true companions, whom I would hope to be re-united with in Jannah insha'Allah. Subhan'Allah...my words could do them no justice. May Allah give them all the happiness there is to accquire in this life, but most importantly the next insha'Allah.

*On another note: Sister Mujahidah an Nafs, a dear and true friend of mine [Alhamdulillah], recently had a family member pass away, may Allah fill his grave with Nur and grant him ease insha'Allah. Please keep the family in your duaas as well. May Allah give them sabr and ease insha'Allah. Also she is currently in the midst of some important exams, please make duaa for her. May she pass all the exams that she may face in this life and may she be saved from the tests of the hereafter insha'Allah.

May Allah make us of those who are of the best to our companions and raise the ranks of those who are among the best of companions to their friends and give them ease in both lives insha'Allah.

Allahumma sali'ala sayyiddina Muhammadin wa 'ala alay sayyiddina Muhammadin wa barik wa salim. Rawdhina billahi Rabba wa bil'islaami deena wa bi'Muhammadin nabiyaa, wa akhirud'duana anil'hamdulillahi rabbil'alameen.

Walaykumasalam wa rahmatullah

Friday, May 12, 2006

Forgiveness...Fisabilillah.

Bismillahir'rahman'nir-rahim.

Allahumma sali'ala sayyiddina Muhammadin wa 'ala alay sayyiddina Muhammadin wa barik wa salim.

Asalamu'alaykum wa Rahmatullah

Forgiveness... For the Sake of Allah, Subhan'Allah what a beautiful thing. SubhanAllah, how flawed we are...There is sometimes the rare occasion when discussing something with a close friend whom you love For the Sake of Allah, and they too love you For the Sake of Allah, that you disagree upon something, or you say something or do something which leads to the other being hurt... And then you regret it.

Remorse and sadness take over your soul, and you are filled with nothing but grief over this incident. Why? Becuase this sin, however light it may be seen, is so manifest and of a great magnitude. Not only have you hurt someone, you have hurt someone you love For the Sake of Allah...you have hurt The creation of The Creator

Rasulullah Sal'Allahualayhiwasalam said that Allah Subhanahu wa ta'ala has said: 'My love is granted to those who love one another for My sake, who visit one another for My sake, and who spend on one another for My sake.'


If those who love one another for Allah's Sake, and also forgive one another for His Sake... What a display of your love for Allah (ofcourse to Allah, not so you may be held high in the sights of others) masha'Allah to forgive someone who you feel may have wronged you or hurt you in anyway...

I believe I am guilty of this. Out of haste and caught in emotion I feel I may have hurt someone. Someone who holds a special place in my life and also happens to be one of the individuals who I have some (okay quite a lot) of respect for; Someone I love For the Sake of Allah, today I hurt this person. I despise causing someone any sort of discomfort, which is what makes it worse...Inna Lillah...but the fact remains that we all make mistakes, may Allah forgive us insha'Allah. But still in such a scenario, Allah will not forgive the wrong doer until the one who he/she hurt forgives him (the wrong doer.)

So I humbly request that you make duaa my beloved friend finds it in her heart to forgive me, and that Allah gives me the sense to think, think, think, re-evaluate what I thought, and then to speak in all scenarios and situations...insha'Allah.

To my sister(you know who you are): Please forgive me, I hold enough burden to answer for on That Day, I'm asking you to ease this burden..forigve me... For the Sake of Allah... ana uhubbikufillah...

[excuse the arabi if it makes no sense, i'm sure she understands, as she is one of those who understnads me best..Alhamdulillah..insha'Allah..]

May Allah give us all the inclination to love and forgiveone another for His Sake, and treat others with the utmost kindness* possible insha'Allah.

sidenote:*utmost kindness: keep it halal guys!..Alhamdulillah...

Allahumma sali'ala sayyiddina Muhammadin wa 'ala alay sayyiddina Muhammadin wa barik wa salim. Rawdhina billahi Rabba wa bil'islaami deena wa bi'Muhammadin nabiyaa, wa akhirud'duana anil'hamdulillahi rabbil'alameen.


Walaykumasalam wa rahmatullah

 

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